BECOMING AN EZER

I teach the ladies Sunday School class in our church. Mainly we study things that help us be better Christian women. A few weeks ago we began studying what it truly means to be an Ezer...or if you don't speak Hebrew, a helpmeet. To understand what the true role of a woman is you must first understand why God created woman. I began searching the internet, which has become a fabulous study tool, and came across another blog which introduced me to a book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His HelpMeet. Talk about an eye-opening book!

First, let me be clear, women were not created to be slaves. Being a submissive woman doesn't mean you are a doormat for your husband to wipe his feet on. In fact, an Ezer (helpmeet) is like a strong right arm, a warrior for your husband, one with whom he is not complete. We are the glue that holds the family together.

I've discovered that many things we modern, liberated women do are actually demeaning and harmful for our husband's mental and physical well being. In the quest to be equal (which we already were created as equal) we attempted instead to be the leader, the head. We forgot that we were the feminine, soft-spoken, gentile half. We all forgot the old adage, which I often hear my mother's voice ringing in my ears saying, "you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar."

I've also learned that in our attempts to be what we were not created to be we've blasphemed the Word of God. I think that bothered me most.

I highly recommend women read Debi Pearl's book. It's an eye-opening, life-changing experience.